Contributed by: Jacki Roessler, CDFA®
How much money did you and your spouse earn last year? I bet you can come up with an answer or a pretty close approximation at a moment’s notice. Now, what if I ask you how much you spent last year?
Long pause and nothing more than a vague idea, right? Let me assure you, you are not alone.
When I sit down with clients who are contemplating or in the process of divorce, the most important question I ask is “have you completed a budget yet?” It’s extremely rare for someone to say yes. No one likes the dreaded “b” word. Yet, after nearly 25 years of being a divorce financial planner, creating a budget (let’s call it a spending plan) for the future is the one foolproof way I know for clients to take control of their financial well‐being and have less stress and money anxiety in the future.
On a global level, if you don’t know what you spend every year, how can you make the big decisions that will be facing you in your divorce such as “should I keep the house” or “what amount of alimony can I agree to?”
On a smaller scale, sometimes we don’t realize we’re overspending on discretionary items such as dining out, holiday gifts and personal care. Seeing it on paper is an eye‐opening experience and a powerful tool to get spending under control.
Where should you begin?
Follow this link for my favorite budgeting worksheet or find one online that you like. If you pay for most expenses with credit cards, you have a simple place to start. Pull out a years’ worth of statements and tally up the totals in each category; housing, medical, food, groceries, dining out, vehicle costs, travel, etc.
Next, consider items you don’t charge on credit cards, for example, mortgage, tax and insurance payments which are generally automatically debited from a bank account. Other items that can be overlooked are those that are deducted directly from your paycheck such as Federal and State taxes, FICA, health insurance premiums, retirement account contributions and healthcare savings accounts.
Another place to look for spending “clues”? Not sure what your annual property taxes are on your home or what you donated to charities in the past? Look at your income tax returns for the past 3 years to give you some insight.
Once you’ve completed this time consuming task, stop and give yourself a high‐five! Creating a spending plan is a lot of work.
Next, give your completed spending plan to your divorce financial advisor and your attorney. They’ll provide valuable feedback about items you’ve missed and/or things you may need to scale back on. Discussing your spending plan together is also a good way to share your financial priorities with your professional team. Most importantly, your spending plan is a necessary tool your attorney needs in order to advocate for you in your divorce.
Jacki Roessler, CDFA®, is a Divorce Planner at Center for Financial Planning, Inc.® and Branch Associate, Raymond James Financial Services. With more than 25 years of experience in the field, she is a recognized leader in the area of Divorce Financial Planning.